thinking about doing my tails tomorrow is it absolutely necessary to wet sand between coats because the same was said about my rims and i did it without wet sanding between and they turned out fine but i did sand them down before i started prime if anyone has done this or has any input let me know

Yes, wet sand between coats. Make sure that you clear them when you are done. That is the most important thing, nightshades NEEDS clearcoat.

ya i def know clearcoat is a big part of it i asked only because i heard your not suppose to sand night shade and last time i didnt wet sand my rims because it started to mess them up